y best friend and I used to date in school, but I moved to Australia for a year before university, so I ended it. Once I returned, it was clear we both still loved each other. However, he says he doesn’t want a relationship with me or anyone, but we sleep together and spend all our time together. I told him I couldn’t be his best friend as it would hurt too much to see him with other women. He says I’m his “No 1 priority”, but why won’t he commit? I’m scared to walk away from him, but what else can I do? • When leaving a message on this page, please be sensitive to the fact that you are responding to a real person in the grip of a real-life dilemma, who wrote to Private Lives asking for help and may well view your comments here. Please consider especially how your words or the tone of your message could be perceived by someone in this situation, and be aware that comments that appear to be disruptive or disrespectful to the individual concerned will be removed. • If you would like fellow readers to respond to a dilemma of yours, send us an outline of the situation of about 150 words. For advice from Pamela Stephenson Connolly on sexual matters, send us a brief description of your concerns.